Touch – a queer/lesbian short film coming soon!

Coming off a long creative hiatus is EXCITING! Not only did I release a poetry collection last year and a new short story last month, but I’ve also been quietly working on a new short FILM!

The movie is entitled Touch, and it’s about what happens when a married woman goes to see a tantric sex worker in search of intimacy she isn’t getting at home.

Touch film by Cheril N. Clarke
Touch film by Cheril N. Clarke

A couple of nights ago some of the cast and crew did a virtual table reading to start diving into the script. Because of COVID-19, we don’t know when we will be able to shoot but in the meantime, we have begun the creative pre-production work to bring this story from script to screen!

Check out snippets from two different scenes below:

2011 LGBT Community Survey – complete for a chance to win $100


Estimated time to read this post: Less than five minutes. 😉

 

Hello All,

This is a dedicated blog to invite you to take a new survey about your opinions and preferences, from an LGBT perspective.

Everyone who completes the survey by June 15th will be entered into a drawing to win one of five $100 cash prizes, or if you win, you can designate a charity to receive the $100.

There’s Power in our Pride! Participating in this study helps open minds and doors around the world, and influences positive changes for our community. Last year’s survey yielded 45,000 respondents from 100+ countries! You may have seen CMI research quoted in the New York Times, USA Today, Wall Street Journal, etc.

Click here to start the survey, or paste the following into your browser: http://www.LGBTSurvey.com. It takes about 10 minutes.

If you have LGBT friends around the world who might be interested in this survey, please forward this message to them. And please post it to your Facebook and Twitter accounts! Be sure to answer question one with “Bey-Clarke Media Group/Cheril N. Clarke” so they know heard about it from me.

 

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Check out the LGBTQ Womyn of Color Conference in Philly!

 
Countdown to the Conference
2nd Annual LGBTQ Womyn of Color Conference
 October 7-10, AFSC (1501 Cherry Street, 19102)
Ticket Info
 
4-DAY PASS (Adult) – $55 (V.I.P. to All Events) – Until 10/5
3DAY PASS (Adult) – $45
4-DAY PASS (Youth 16-18) – $30

SCHOLARSHIPS AVAILABLE!

17+ Workshops
Reserve your spot for your desired workshop
Purchase your tickets before October 4th to reserve a workshop spot. Select your desired workshop and purchase your ticket at www.windtickets.eventbrite.com. No worries about standing room only. No worries about scrambling for a seat. No worries about missing your favorite workshop due to overcrowding.
 
 
Grammy Award winning artist Dionne Farris
Opening Acts: Anomali, Devin Christy and Pussies Pens and Politics
 
17+ Workshops | Film Screenings | Inter-generational Brunch
Meet the Board Event | Keynote Addresses | Parties | March to OutFest

BUY ONLINE TICKETS: www.ourelements.org

FOR PAPER TICKETS: 610-297-4282
 
4-DAY PASS (Adult) – $55 (V.I.P. to All Events)
3DAY PASS (Adult) – $45
4-DAY PASS (Youth 16-18) – $30

SCHOLARSHIPS AVAILABLE!

Friday: Van Nguyen
Youth Educator and an Organizer for the Trans Health Conference


Saturday: Coya Artichoker

Founder of the

2-Spirit First Nations Collective 

Sunday: Marquita Thomas

Founder of Serafemme Queer Women of Color Music Festival

Inter-Generational Brunch Welcoming Speaker
Gloria Casarez
Director of LGBT Affairs, City of Philadelphia
(Saturday, October 9th)

We are going out with a bang!: Attend DeucesThe Official Conference Closing Party October 10th.

 

Updates with my plays, stories, books and things :-)

 

 

Whew! What's next? Well, again I want to thank the cast, crew, patrons and sponsors of the Plainfield, NJ production of Intimate Chaos the play! As always, it was a big collaborative effort to mount the show and I'm ever grateful to all who help make it come to be. With that being said, I know many of you who do not live in the northeast want to at least get to see the show on DVD. Believe me, I'm working on that. One challenge is getting everyone and everything on the same page at the same time—making sure everything from budget to my desired cast, crew and venue are in sync. So to those who are waiting for that DVD please know that it's at the top of my priority list!

Next up for my stories is another vignette featuring Kenya from Intimate Chaos. This one is entitled Ecstasy, and picks up right where Illusions of Love left off. I just finished the final draft today and expect to send it to my editor by next week. The vignette will be available for sale on June 15, 2010 for $.99 (in ebook format), but I will have an excerpt up much sooner than that!

BOOKS – Yay for books! 🙂 I've been going through something really funny lately with my characters, Melissa (from Tainted Destiny) in particular. To be honest, I've been trying to write her story for almost nine years now. YEP, NINE YEARS! What I thought would become of her since then has evolved quite a bit, but it's still coming to me slowly. I want to get it out though, to share it with you. It is my intention to complete and publish that next and it will be entitled, Until the Day Breaks. This story will go back in time to when she was a little girl living in Louisville, KY and bring us up to where we met her in Tainted Destiny, as a young undergraduate student and beyond. I want to show you who she was, the circumstances in her life that makes her grow into a young woman and a close-up view of her soul as struggles with the complexities of life to find her way. Melissa going to go through a lot, as I'd like to explore emotional abuse and same-sex domestic violence in this book. The story will delve into those issues and show us how anyone can quickly be one step away from hitting rock bottom (emotionally and physically) and what enables them to rebound or be swallowed by life. I'm working on it – so stay tuned!

Also in the back of my mind are Brianna and Pam. 🙂 Many of you want to know what will be come of them and so do I. Funny enough, I even got some questions about Frank and Terrence!  I can tell you now that I do NOT know what is going to become of any of them but I DO look forward to discovering that in another book. I feel that there is more story to be told with these characters and I will get around to telling it in the near future.


That's it for now. I'll give another update soon!

 

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Where are all the upscale lesbians?

They're not in the clubs. Are they quietly integrated in mainstream society? Do they exist? Where do you find the lesbian version of Taraji P.Henson? Let's see. I have been asked where these lesbians are on quite a few occasions and I suppose the answer really depends on how one interprets upscale. For one person, it may be a club that doesn't allow hats, boots or sneakers, and for another person it might be an event at which there is no need to print the words "classy" or "upscale" on the invitation because the stipulations (black-tie, formal, $$$ admission, etc.) and attention to detail automatically exude class (except for the $ part as having money doesn't always equal having class). Where can you find these women? Well, before I can even get to that I think I should share with you the lens through which I look. To me, an upscale woman is one whose conversation, diction, and intellectual level are superb. She pays attention to detail in her dress, smell, make-up, jewelry and hair—she looks polished. This woman is cultured, well-read, has depth of character, a personal value system by which she lives and has a disarming aura of grace about her when she enters a room. She turns heads but it isn't just because of her physical beauty! She is also emotionally mature, which is a big deal for me because a woman who is emotionally mature is at a point in her life where she can do as she pleases when she pleases and never feels the need to put others down because they behave or look different from her. In other words, she isn't stuck up! And though she won't party with certain people, she doesn't belittle them either. It can be hard to find all of the above in one woman but I believe this type of woman exists. Now where to find her is another story. Personally, I am a homebody. I put spending time with my family above all else. I don't like bars or clubs. This is why I am usually unable to answer this question for people when they ask. When I do go out on the town, I will admit that it's usually to a mainstream party like the NYE party at the Crystal Tea Room or if it is LGBT oriented, it's usually a fund raiser. See, I don't want to hear a bunch of ‘yo son' or ‘that b*tch is trippin' when I'm out. I generally don't want to be in a place where the only staff is bartenders and bouncers. I want a good time and I don't want to feel stressed out while doing so. I want service. Above all, I like privacy and intimacy which is why I usually just hang out with my wife and maybe a few close friends. Anyway, for those of you who view upscale as I do here are a few ideas that might lead you in the right direction. If you still can't find who you're looking for…well…let's just hope this gets your imagination going! 🙂 -Look into charity functions by hosted by organizations Garden State Equality, National Black Justice Coalition. These organizations often have fund raising galas, dinners, picnics, etc. where you might meet other women (single or coupled) for friendship. -Go to upscale establishments. Try trendy, boutique, and posh restaurants with famed chefs instead of the chains and run of the mill bars. If you're in a small town where there is only one gay bar/club/safe space then this may be a challenge. -If there is such a thing as a gay-friendly membership only/country club near you, join it. If there isn't and you have the resources to create one then by all means, start your own group. Frequent art exhibits and galleries by LGBTQ artists. -Join an upscale dating site. There's got to be a gay friendly, upscale dating site out there that allows you to be very selective about the type of mate you'd like to meet. -Go on a women only cruise to somewhere other than the Caribbean. -Be the woman you want to meet. You might need to upgrade your wardrobe, conversation and overall presentation. All right. I hope that helps. Follow me on Twitter @Cherilnc

Some Lesbians Just Love Drama!

Say what? Or rather, in general, “some people just love drama!” How often do you or someone you know iterate this statement? But is it true that some people just love drama? While I believe that due to their upbringing and environment, some people aren’t able to function without what most of us deem “drama,” I don’t believe that they actually like, much less love it. Outside of theatrical productions, drama is hardly enjoyable. It’s stressful, tiresome and fruitless. I think the people we tend to categorize as drama lovers are actually people who don’t know any other way of living. The only conflict resolution they might know is yelling, tantrums, cursing or violence. Chronologically, they may be in their 20s, 30s, 40s etc., but emotionally, they are still a child. Poor communication skills, lack of trust and the inability to resolve problems in an adult manner are the main drivers of drama, I think. So what do you do if this person is you? Well, my first thought is that you’ve got to know yourself and acknowledge that if you’ve had a string of chaotic relationships, the problem might be you. Self-awareness is your friend. A person who has poor communication skills doesn’t know how to speak or listen effectively. She might talk over you or only listen long enough to formulate her response, which usually just leads to bigger conflicts or misunderstandings. Has anyone ever told you that you don’t listen? If so, did you ever stop and ask them to give you examples or did you deny it and keep on talking? If you’re in a relationship with a person who is always talking over you and not letting you get a word in, have you tried refusing to argue with them or discuss anything further until they let you speak uninterrupted? In a future blog I will drop some tips for good communication that have worked for me. A large part of having a loving, lasting relationship is good communication. Another big part is trust (we all know that one, right?:). If you feel as though you can’t trust your partner farther than you can see them then you have to examine why. Who made you not want to trust anyone else ever again and why are you still letting that person control how you live your life? They are controlling your life, because if they weren’t, you wouldn’t have trust issues because of “so and so” or because “so and so did this to you and broke your heart.” You need to forgive that person and move on. Forgiving them is more so for you than it is for them. Forgive. Heal. Let Go. Move on. Problem solving and resolving conflicts in an adult manner, to me, go hand-in-hand with communicating well. If you are taking time to actively listen to your partner (includes reading their body language) when the two of you are having a disagreement, you should be better able to tell what might work to solve your issue. Would it help if you just backed off and gave them some time to sort through their thoughts? Would it help to just be quiet and let them say all that they have to say rather than keep interrupting them with a rebuttal? Do they need help labeling what they feel? Is a two-way apology all that is needed or do you need couple’s counseling? If you feel yourself getting upset during a disagreement try pausing for a moment, taking a deep breath and asking your partner to repeat themselves. You might have taken their words the wrong way and that one moment that you take to stop before reacting emotionally could spare you an evening filled with drama. If your partner said what you thought they said and it hurt your feelings just admit it. There’s no need to start yelling, carrying on or storming out of the house in a huff. Are you three or 30? There’s no need to go telling all your friends about it either (under the guise of asking for advice). People ask for advice when they already know the solution to their dilemma. They just want someone to take their side. That’s teenage stuff. There is also no need to purposely say something that you know will hurt them back. Instead, just tell them that what they said hurt you and you didn’t appreciate it. Chances are they didn’t mean to hurt or offend you-not if they really love you. Sometimes the truth just stings whether we like it or not. It’s not easy to do this-change the way you react, actively listen or compromise when you’re used to getting your way-as old habit die hard, but if you really want to get out of drama-filled relationships it’s worth the investment of your time. Life is so much more pleasant without drama. All the energy you spend arguing could be put to better use, you know? By no means am I a doctor of love but because I have written books about dramatic lesbian relationships I tend to get comments and questions from people in dramatic situations. What are your thoughts on all of this? Follow me on Twitter @Cherilnc